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That's like saying that since there isn't much to begin with at least it can't get worse, sure that may make it easier to solve problems but not for a reason I see as good.
It's not. It's about the fact that once the NRE wears off, if you have no idea what's happening to you there's a good chance you will not know how to deal with the fact that the relationship isn't awesome shiny anymore, but rather just reality.
If you start out with reality and then get to love each other from there (something I believe is actually kind of likely to happen if the people suggesting the match weren't complete morons) it seems like a more stable situation.
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As you've described it, it sounds a lot like a blind date to me, though much more permanent. That's just a LOT of faith to put in the matchmaker, and I don't know if I could make that leap.
I know... obviously (depending on your family) you'll have anything from 2 hours to a few years to get to know the person and can then go from there, or they'll suggest someone you know anyway and you'll have an easy time answering.
The thing is that in cultures where parents arrange the marriages (i.e. South Asia and such) people are almost always really ******* close to their parents so there's enough of a relationship to know what the children want; and you can always make demands (anything from skin colour to which Linux distro the girl uses, heh) which together with the actual experience mothers tend to have is going to give pretty decent chances. Plus it keeps people from running off with some hobo they fancy, I guess.
I've done that one too often.
In cultures where you pay a professional to make the match (e.g. Japan), it's basically the same as dating websites, just with a wedding kind of early on. And I assume professionals at least have a bit of an idea what they are doing.