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Of course you can say it.

I like peaches.

Yeah me too. I didn't appreciate it so much at the time; but there were a heck of a lot of good bands up this way back then.

Granted, it was 1989, but still. 90s pop scene was awesome in its unawesomeness.

Edited, Jul 1st 2011 2:00pm by lolgaxe

Also Cher...





Edited, Jul 1st 2011 11:16am by someproteinguy

LOLOL OMG, protein just gave me a flashback. I remember getting yelled at in school for singing tub thumping! Maybe that the was the start of my "Damn the Man" attitude.

And I also have a soft spot for Marcy's Playground.


And Semisonic.

That's... weird. I wonder why.



Aw, Kali doesn't like the stereotypical straight man. :P

I'm guessing it's more along the lines of the first one, but also like "I don't know exactly what I want from or in this relationship."

With Tom, when we tried to be poly for a while, I stopped it when it became obvious that he wasn't willing to admit his feelings such as jealousy to me outside of an all-out open crisis in the relationship and they were just eating him up inside.
Similarly, he won't tell me when something is wrong now and I'm autistic enough to be oblivious about all of it until it hits hard.

But yeah, heterosexual men are just so nehh, right?
That's why I'm going to be dating a somewhat-GQ, mostly gay guy and an asexual soon. @#%^ heteronormativity.


The word nehh has been brought to you by Taylor Mali.

Now, that poem makes the linguist inside me cringe, (low modality is useful!) but it's impressive and cool, anyway.



Edit: With one of the two people now it's still in the "I'm not sure if I like you enough to be in a relationship with you" phase - to some degree it is with both of them. I'm fine with that. It's just when you don't tell me anything and don't even try to understand what is causing these feelings and what can be done to make things clearer to yourself that I have a problem with it. I'm not trying to invalidate his feelings, and I really think I understand them quite well, and I also realise that we can't do anything to change all the uncertainty in the next three months, and while it slightly bothers me (I'd like to have a more solid idea on where this is going), I'm fine with it because it makes sense.

Edited, Jul 1st 2011 8:25pm by Kalivha

I think pretty much everyone has to do that.

I'm just tired of relationships where everyone's feelings are unheard. People can't read minds (unless it's Andrew and me). Bad things happen if things aren't discussed.

The thing is that in a lot of relationships I've been in (especially the current one), no one was willing to take the trouble and work through things in a constructive way. I've been willing in this one, once I realised I want to be poly and wrote a paper on it last year, but it seems to be really really hard for him, and I have found no way to make him do things he doesn't want to do very badly anyway. I've even talked to his mum about it, we totally have the same difficulties with him, haha.
And hey, this is probably one of the best ways to rebound.

I know he feels jealousy, but I don't understand that feeling at all, I've really never felt it and I've read a lot about where it can come from but it's different for different people and while I have my suspicions, I know I cannot read his mind.

Our impending breakup has been discussed pretty thoroughly and I think it's quite amicable, but again he didn't really say much about how it makes him feel; that wouldn't change much, but it'd be nice to know nonetheless.

I know that possessiveness is fairly normal, but I also know that I can't deal with it and I've learned that I need to be very upfront about it from the start if I want to be with someone. It's bad enough that people around here seem to be falling for me left and right at the moment and trying to guilt trip me into dating them and no one else. I mean, I'm in an exclusive relationship right now. When that ends, I won't even be in England and while it looks like I'll have a LDR to England (another part of it) soon that doesn't mean I want to date every single guy in this country.

And I've been brought up in such a messed up way that I was pretty much required to build my own beliefs and principles to avoid cognitive dissonance. I think I'm doing all right with that. The scariest problem in the near future is that I will try and explain everything to my mother and she has principles. Not principles she lives by, but I certainly have to. That's what I mean by avoiding cognitive dissonance. If you're taught different values in words than you are in deeds as a child, it gives great opportunities for building your own values.
That being said, I really don't think it's easy to face your feelings. It's not like it necessarily is for me. It is, however, ever so valuable and I'd go as far as saying most people would be better off if they made some time to reflect on their own emotions.