Kalivha wrote:
Aeth is cute anyway.
And pretty good in bed.
And pretty good in bed.
*grins* Oh really? I want details!
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Actually, Pigtails, I just realised that you were the one who got me to first read about Poly stuff. It sort of stuck in my head when you were talking about it in the OOT a while ago, and I started looking into it.
For me, I'm not really into subbing (except I'm now getting involved with someone who's really into domming and between my mind and reading slave-themed erotica, I actually ended up totally seeing him and me in the situation in the story, with me being the sub, and it was nice). I would be into domming, but anything that is even remotely non-consent related makes me extremely uneasy (I wrote something about that on Fetlife actually), so it's something I wouldn't be able to appreciate properly.
For me, I'm not really into subbing (except I'm now getting involved with someone who's really into domming and between my mind and reading slave-themed erotica, I actually ended up totally seeing him and me in the situation in the story, with me being the sub, and it was nice). I would be into domming, but anything that is even remotely non-consent related makes me extremely uneasy (I wrote something about that on Fetlife actually), so it's something I wouldn't be able to appreciate properly.
Firstly, I think it's awesome that something good came out of that conversation besides me getting ridiculed by most of the other posters in the OoT and Asylum. =x Not that that was a good thing, but that's just how that phrase works... I'm glad I could help.
Secondly, the world of D/s is huge. It doesn't do it justice to whittle it down to just non-consent. In most cases, non-consent has nothing to do with D/s. In ALL "safe, sane and consensual" practices, it has nothing to do with D/s. The sub or slave is really the one with the control. They can (or should be able to) stop a scene with their safe word if they don't like what's going on. Plus scenes are supposed to be pre-negotiated. So both parties know what's going to happen and are okay with it. D/s is a bit difficult to explain in any case, but there's tons of information in the different groups on Fetlife that explain it better than I could. =x