I spend the time that I can devote to playing in a variety of ways. Some nights I like to just get an exp group and pick a camp and grind away, not necessarily for just exp, but because it's fun owning mob after mob. The added benefit to this is gaining experience, and getting loot.
Some nights I log on and get a group of guildies together and do writs for a few hours. Still getting experience for both me and my guild. Double bonus.
Other nights I like to log in and work on quests. I am currently working on my Fishbone Earring, Legendary JBoots races, Shiny Brass Halberd, and many other non-heritage quests. I just do parts of quests as I move through zones. To me, some nights, that is fun and relaxing.
As I have mentioned I have played a SK in EQ1 and now in EQ2. A lot of you either may not know, or have forgotten how versitile a shadowknight was in EQ1. We had stuff for almost any situation. And didn't have problems soloing if we wanted to (fear kiting or, reverse fear kiting). I never had a lack of buttons to mash. I may not have as fancy of spells as I had in EQ1, but what EQ2 lacks in spells that really give you oomf, it makes up for in strategies for using what you do have.
If you run into battle in EQ2 and just start using abilities without a plan, you will more than likely die. To be effective you have to ration your power to an extent by using HOs, and timing your abilities outside of HOs. Knowing how much power your different abilities use and how much of a benefitial return you get from using that ability goes a long way as well.
Also, something to consider, while you may not see any spectacular ways to "cheat the system" and get xp from harder mobs with less effort, just remember the game hasn't been out very long at all in comparison to when you maybe figured out how to do it in EQ1.
People had to figure those things out, some GM didn't just log in and say 'hey by the way, try snaring 3 or 4 mobs and using your SoW to outrun them while you cast'. No kiting, as you know it, does not exist in EQ2, but before you start complaining that everything isn't handed to you on a silver platter, why don't you experiment, or find other ways to have fun until someone figures it out for you. If you can't do that, then perhaps this game isn't for you, so go ahead and quit posting now, and leave.