Drive-by invites...please ask firstFollow

Does anyone find players who just invite you out of the blue regardless of whether you have your LFG flag up or not a tad bit annoying?

I plea to those who need someone for a group to please ask before inviting...especially if the person isn't seeking a group. I don't know how many times I've been minding my own business and a big invite window pops up for no reason.

Even for those times when some one is LFG, it's always nice to ask because there are times you want an exp group or a quest group. I like to help out other people, but sometimes I want to level my character.

Yes I know we can go anonymous...but quite frankly I shouldn't need to. I think a little courtesy amoungst our fellow players, especially ones you are asking to help out, is not too much to ask.

Having come out of EQ, I was bothered by this at first but have come to regard it as a different dynamic in a different game.

Grouping seems much more casual in EQ2 with folks often hooking up in a zone for the express purpose of completing a quest or camping a given mob and when they are done, the group disbands.

With this in mind, I can understand the *instant group* mentality.

When I don't feel like excepting, I just decline with the same amount of explaination as went into their offer... like none!

Well I still think they should ask...

I am coming off of FFXI to here and before back there it was just rude to 'blind invite' as we would call it. People even put that in their search comments [Blind Invite, No Thanks]. But...in FFXI grouping is like a way of life, so it was more common that the group would stick together for hours.

Whereas here, like you all said it's sorta instant and just dropped after Mission Complete.

Either way, I feel they should /tell first, then invite.

I agree with you all that it is polite to ask first and was not trying to justify the mis-behaviour, only citing what I think is the cause of it.

If you are talking invites when you aren't LFG, then ya. That's kind of annoying. But IMO if you have LFG tag on it's a red flag for blind invites. I invite people without sending them a tell first if they were LFG. I also seek out people who arent LFG and send them a tell first asking if they are interested.

Blind invites themselves are common place in eq2 and nothing bad. I think the whole determining factor has got to be wether or not you had LFG on )

Oh yes,

If you have your flag up, then your fair game lol, I was referring to if you don't have any flag up and your questing and stuff. Either way, I ask first and tell them who all I've managed to get and then see if they wanna join in.

Slyone

Edited, Tue Jan 18 02:16:35 2005 by SlyoneSwash

I prefer the term "ninja invite", and I get them constantly for groups and even guilds. Definitely a pet peeve of mine.

Even if your LFG is up, it still common courtesy to at least say "Hi" first before inviting someone into a group. Are people in that much of a hurry to XP grind that they can't even say Hello? More importantly, why would you invite someone blindly into a group when neither of you has any idea what the other is doing? (I can imagine some smart *** inviting me into a group just as he is about to die, just for laughs in seeing me get XP debt.) Unless you say hello and we can decide on whether a grouping would be mutually beneficial, then ninja invites are declined - period.

DDP

Edited, Tue Jan 18 09:14:24 2005 by xythex

It really doesn't bother me all that much and I haven't had too much of a problem with them since leaving the IoR.

It's a newbie gamer thing. Like typing in all caps, not announcing trains, accidently stumbling over someones camp, inspecting without permission (eq1) or a bazzillion other mistakes that most of us made when first starting out. If you take the time to help someone understand MMORPG ettiquite they are more likely to respect it and in turn pass it on to someone else in the future.

So next time you get a blind invite from some newbie send em a little tell that politely lets them know it's bad form.

While I completely agree with the common courtesy factor, as I do send a tell to someone who is NOT LFG (LFG open to invites IMO), I don't see why it's worth putting up a topic about. I am a ranger. Have been ninja invited (love the phrase, coin it) and it's never gotten in the way as the window is so small it's no big deal at all. I think there are way too many A n a l people who feel it's necessary to complain about something like this that's so trivial and meaningless. The time it took that first person to put this post up and probably read the replies, was about the time equal to 100 ninja declines...... if not more. Stop crying, decline, and move along..

Actually I have a rather weird experience last night. When I was in Qeynos Exchange minding my own business, I suddenly received an invite from a guy right next to me. I didn't decline his invite right away but I asked him what he was up to. His reply was "free food and drink." So I thought he'd like some free food and drink (I'm a templar) and even though I thought that was kinda rude I accepted his invite and summon him some food and drink. But the funny part is that while I was summoning, he started summoning me some food and drink too, it was then I realized he was a lvl 8 priest. It was weird so after we summon each other some food (?) I disbanded the group. A few minutes later I got a tell from the same player asking if I have some old armor that he could use which then I just shut him off.

So… did he think that by summoning me some free food I'd give him some kool armor in return?


Edited, Tue Jan 18 17:35:12 2005 by kanonyuki

That is really odd. I'd like to think he wasn't trying to give you free food and water for free old armor, but you never know.

Peaple who play mmog's are so danm touchy. if you dont like blind invites dont accept whats the big deal? I hate peaple asking me to party, when im asking for a party, just frigging invite me, geezz.