i come from ffxi(my rating just dropped) and i am a little dissapointed in eqII. The people arent nearly as friendly and i find it really hard to make friends...maybe its just my server. im on faydark. i think thats the name. if you have a guild or something on there invite me, im getting lonely.
although this could be partly because im low lvl. im just lvl 11. but still. i had friends and a linkshell by lvl 3 in ffxi. and people are so much nicer. i asked a girl to be my friend in eqII and she said "i dont know, i'll think about it" i was like..."are you serious" its ridiculous.
please post and tell me whats up with this.
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I am on Faydark as well- Rakasha, lv. 20 Monk. Happy to know you! Look me up any time!
Generally speaking, EQ2 and all Massively Multiplayer games follow the same methods of friends making as the real world. That is, you really can't just *ask* someone to be your friend. If i did that to a relative stranger in the real world, the most I'd get would be an odd look. The best way to make friends is to spend time with people, in groups or otherwise, and make it more than just a one time affair. Maybe a better way of letting someone know you'd like to talk to them more would be to say something like "I'm going to add you to my friends list, is that alright?". Then they know you'll prolly be contacting them again in the future :)
I understand the difficulty in making friends some times. Being a soloist, I do not have the normal opportunities to make friends. I joined a guild and made some, ended up not liking the guild and leaving. However, I still retained those friends :) You might wish to check out http://eq2players.station.sony.com/en/guild_srankings.vm?serverId=209, which has a listing of the guilds on your server. Try joining one and you might be surprised at all the friends you make :)
I understand the difficulty in making friends some times. Being a soloist, I do not have the normal opportunities to make friends. I joined a guild and made some, ended up not liking the guild and leaving. However, I still retained those friends :) You might wish to check out http://eq2players.station.sony.com/en/guild_srankings.vm?serverId=209, which has a listing of the guilds on your server. Try joining one and you might be surprised at all the friends you make :)
I'm on steamfront, seams to be a good server with most people getting along (MOST being a key word). Anyway, if it's really bad you could always try here.
i guess i'll just give this one some more time. see how things work out. if it continues to be an unfriendly enviroment, i will switch servers
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i come from ffxi(my rating just dropped) and i am a little dissapointed in eqII. The people arent nearly as friendly and i find it really hard to make friends...maybe its just my server. im on faydark. i think thats the name. if you have a guild or something on there invite me, im getting lonely.
although this could be partly because im low lvl. im just lvl 11. but still. i had friends and a linkshell by lvl 3 in ffxi. and people are so much nicer. i asked a girl to be my friend in eqII and she said "i dont know, i'll think about it" i was like..."are you serious" its ridiculous.
please post and tell me whats up with this.
although this could be partly because im low lvl. im just lvl 11. but still. i had friends and a linkshell by lvl 3 in ffxi. and people are so much nicer. i asked a girl to be my friend in eqII and she said "i dont know, i'll think about it" i was like..."are you serious" its ridiculous.
please post and tell me whats up with this.
You telling me that if you were walking down the street and some stranger walks up to you and says, "Wanna be friends", you would give that person your name, number, and address and invite them over?
no, i dont expect the people in eq to give me their name number and invite me over to their hosue either, i just want help witht he game and stuff, and someone to ttalk to. its not like i want them to commit their life to me
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no, i dont expect the people in eq to give me their name number and invite me over to their hosue either, i just want help witht he game and stuff, and someone to ttalk to. its not like i want them to commit their life to me
Have you ever walked up to someone in a game and asked to be friends and actually became friends?
Someone did that to me in the first days of FFXI and I though something was wrong with them. No, I don't want to stand around talking to you. I'm thinking, "I don't care about you. What can you do for me?" This same person was complaining about how EQL had more friendly people than FFXI. Seems to me as if people who had lotsa friends in one game come to another, miss having established friendships, and forget that those friendships didn't pop out of thin air the first 2 minutes.
Typically friends are the people who you've grouped with and who you have made a good impression with and also - and this is the most important part - you come across them time after time.
I think the structure of EQ2 actually works against friendships striking up.
Unless you play with RL friends or have very similar playing times the Quest-based nature of the game tends to drive you in different directions.
In earlier games where a lot of people spent time "grinding exp" in places then you did at least get to play with the same group of people as you levelled through the various places. You would play together for hours at a time.
Grouping in EQ2 seems to be very short and quest focused with groups often breaking the moment the person who wanted the quest has their drop. Then everyone goes off on whatever quest they were working on before they grouped.
Unless you play with RL friends or have very similar playing times the Quest-based nature of the game tends to drive you in different directions.
In earlier games where a lot of people spent time "grinding exp" in places then you did at least get to play with the same group of people as you levelled through the various places. You would play together for hours at a time.
Grouping in EQ2 seems to be very short and quest focused with groups often breaking the moment the person who wanted the quest has their drop. Then everyone goes off on whatever quest they were working on before they grouped.
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I would have to agree with Corbra. I ve been in many groups where as soon as the quest that someone was trying to compelte ended the group broke up and everyone went different ways. I havent really been in a set and grind Xp group yet like you could find all the time in EQ1.
If someone wants to group with you its usually cause they need something for a quest otherwise they would just solo. But I think things will get better as the game grows.
And like some of them said just ask if you could add someones name to your firends list and when you see them on ask them if they could use you. Thats what Ive been doing and I have 3-4 people a group with farily reguarly, we just do what ever quest someone has and try and help out each other with what ever quest either of us needs done.
If someone wants to group with you its usually cause they need something for a quest otherwise they would just solo. But I think things will get better as the game grows.
And like some of them said just ask if you could add someones name to your firends list and when you see them on ask them if they could use you. Thats what Ive been doing and I have 3-4 people a group with farily reguarly, we just do what ever quest someone has and try and help out each other with what ever quest either of us needs done.
I guess I'm in the minority. I like the short & sweet grouping. Get your stuff done and go on to something else. I always hated the way it was in EQ1, where I felt tied to a group for an hour or more, just grinding out exp.
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I guess I'm in the minority. I like the short & sweet grouping. Get your stuff done and go on to something else. I always hated the way it was in EQ1, where I felt tied to a group for an hour or more, just grinding out exp.
I totally agree. I no longer do exp groups in EQ. I quest and raid and play with friends
I just think that one byproduct of that EQ situation was you did at least get to know people well enough to build a friends list. When you group for 5 minutes at a time it's pretty hard to tell if someone is really nice or just trying to get you to help them, truly incompetent or just having an off day.
Wherever I go - there I am.
Cobras right. My groups are real short and in that time its hard to make friends. In all the older MMOs Id walk away with 2 or more buddy invites, now Im lucky to get a 1hr conversation in a group while questing etc. Not that people arent friendly in this, its just not made to hang out in 1 spot with one group for 6 hrs wasting the same critters over and over. This relies heavily on questing and not everyone has the same quests to do. Anyone without that particular quest would rather part ways and find another group to do their needed quest with.
eq and ffxi exp groups were horrible just sitting there for hours sometimes killing the same thing over and over again
True, sticking to one group for a while does let you get to know people more. I guess I've been lucky in EQ2 so far though. I've been in groups just long enough to somewhat get a feel for the other folks. (not all my groups, but a few).
And having those longer groups can be a double edged sword. You might make a friend, or you may be stuck there with some idiots.
And having those longer groups can be a double edged sword. You might make a friend, or you may be stuck there with some idiots.
I've added several group members to my friends list because of a good group, I used to hate Eq1 grouping it took 9 hours to get one and when you finally got one it was usually over in half the time it took to form, pain in the ***.
Eq2 is a lot more fluid, I've been invited in groups just standing around killing some stuff.
I found recently doing my AQ's that not everyone is I'm done see ya later, hell I organised our group so that nearly everyone got the stuff they needed and we completed 5 out of the 6 which was pretty badass, then I got pissed off cause we wiped got everyones shard back first though :P
some people are just *******'s can't change, but what goes around comes around.
Eq2 is a lot more fluid, I've been invited in groups just standing around killing some stuff.
I found recently doing my AQ's that not everyone is I'm done see ya later, hell I organised our group so that nearly everyone got the stuff they needed and we completed 5 out of the 6 which was pretty badass, then I got pissed off cause we wiped got everyones shard back first though :P
some people are just *******'s can't change, but what goes around comes around.
maybe I'm just lucky cuz I tend to have groups lasting at least 2 hours. We do both quests and grind. I've group with people solely for the quest but I usually ask if they wanna stay and do more quest/grind. sometimes people stay and sometimes don't. I guess you gotta ask instead of assuming everyone would stay. Usually when you ask people would stay. at least that's what happened to me :P
unless it's an Unrest thing ? I doubt it though
i found most people in FFXI to be utter and complete idiots, sure they'll be your friend but do you want to have the title of being best friends with the stupidest person on the server? i think not.
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