i'd have to say leveling in eq2 is faster than eq.
i've got 5 toons (if you know me you arent surprised), and had no trouble at all gettin the main to 13 in a short period of time, and all but 2 of the alts over 10, and without focusing at all on "getting there." having said that, i must attribute most of that to quests, but i tend to get shiny object syndrome and talk to every npc i see (had 44 active quests at one point on one toon), and then keep killing things for a tiny bit when a quest is drop-related and i've gotten the drops. i also stop and harvest every node i run across, but dont focus on any particular aspect or the game at all.
why? because it's an rpg, and IRL i tend toward balance, not doing one thing exclusively just to advance. well ok ... everyone that knows me would say i play eq2 a *lot* but that's beside the point /grin.
let me try that again: enjoy the game, and its immersive environment, and the xp will come. try not to focus too much on making a competition out of it, or on one aspect of it solely to advance, and you'll enjoy it more :). yes, the guild system lends itself to that, but the people that are interested in that whole status thing and being all "uber" sure-as-stuffin arent having as much fun as i am :D.
even tradeskillers dont have to grind... all of my toons are enjoying visiting different zones and helping people out while looking for things to forage, but when they get bored, they switch to running errands for npcs in town, or visiting a district they havent been to *just to see what's there*.
different people play rpg's for different reasons, you just need to find your reason to play this one, if you are truly interested in hanging onto it :).
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EQ: Runyaessz, 5 Monk, Phinigel
EVE: Runym/Runyn/Runyl, 43M SP each
SWTOR: Pardoric, 22 Merc, on vaca
EQ: Runyariel Varyuvantel, 65 Enchanter, Tarew Marr, on vaca
LoTRO: Runyarian, 38 hunter, Vilya, on vaca
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EQ2: Runylala, 25 Troll Bard, Qey, Blackburrow, retired
WAR: Runyael, 30 DiscO Khaine, Ironfist,retired.
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