Did i join the game to lateFollow

Have you unlocked the dungeons that make up the High level roulette? If so, I would work on beating those, as that roulette will give you tomestones of Mythology and Soldiery, as well as possibly some gear that should be an improvement over what you have. In addition, doing the Low level roulette on your level 50 job, the main storyline roulette, and the beastmen quests will give you Mythology tomestones. Those can be used to buy ilvl 90 armor and accessories. The Soldiery can be saved up to purchase ilvl 100 armor and accessories.

If you can find a good FC that's willing to help out with these things, you can work on building your equipment up to a point where the HM primals are beatable.

Have you tried posting this OP on the official forums? You would get a whole lot of different reactions from there than the kind folks on ZAM. Believe it or not, once upon a time all of us players were doing the entire primal fights with your gear, grinding away and in a party of 8; someone with 3200 hp would be the 'wow ormigawd look at his/her gearz' hardcore player we would all aspire to be. We all died to Hellfire, we all wept, we all picked ourselves up and maybe whined a little and ******* a little but kept going. Eventually month after month our gear level increased as did our remembrance of the fights and skills until we found is easier to down Titan HM et al. Coming on here and saying that you wanna quit because you have lower level gear than people who have played for a longer time is moot. I hope you don't quit, we need players like you that enjoy the game but don't let silly gear levels put you off. Be the best you can be, give it time, befriend people and don't be mean or envious, eventually you will beat that primal or dungeon or raid and be rightly proud!

One more thing. I don't know if it applies to you, but if you aren't zoomed out entirely, it's harder to spot and dodge some of the bigger attacks, especially in Ifrit.