Catwho wrote:
The tank we got seemed nice enough at first, but he quickly grew frustrated with the newbie DPS, and abandoned us after the third wave of mobs. Instead of taking the time to explain how to play to someone who, judging from his gear, was still relatively new to the game, the tank just left. "Learn to play," he said, and was gone.
Composure and expectations. Expectations are the root of most conflicts. The tank was nice when everything was going how he wanted. When things were not, he ejected. How in the world will people trust and listen to them if they bail and criticize at the first signs of difficulty?
Catwho wrote:
Instead of calling someone a noob, if you're on a tank job in a low level dungeon, give someone some coaching. Don't be condescending, but explain how hate mechanics work. You'll end up with better DPS in thirty levels that way if you train 'em up early. If you just turn into a princess and leave mid-run, you're not making any friends and you're certainly not going to get better DPS in the long run.
Whether they help people learn or not is up to the individual. However, I know that talking to others as human beings with feelings should come before anything else. Otherwise regardless of what you are trying to accomplish, you set up failure for yourself by being condescending with others. Hitler or Ghandi? You may TRY AND DO as Hitler says, but not with an open heart. And you would probably **** up more due to being afraid of messing up.
FilthMcNasty wrote:
I wouldn't have a problem with giving advice if it were a rare occurrence, but it's not. Far from it. Coaching and explaining encounters to people only encourages them to show up to the next dungeon unprepared. Essentially you're giving a man a fish. I just give them the link above and they can feed themselves. Smiley: nod
It's not a rare occurrence and it never will be. That's how life is, it doesn't care if it inconveniences you. You either accept what is but plan how to move it towards convenience(rest of your life) or check out and complain about how life isn't fair and be miserable in the process.
Yes, everyone should read up on things but not everyone will. FilthMcNasty wrote:
Queue is like applying for a job. You select a role that you think you're qualified for and when 'hired', you're expected to perform that role. You don't show up to a job interview when they expect their prospective employees to have experience and just say "Train me on the job". It's a waste of their time, a waste of their money and by showing that you went out and got experience(or in this case, looked up the critical info you need) you are basically showing them you're at least serious.
Not really. You apply to jobs you want whether you are qualified or not. Employers don't expect, they require proof. And regardless of your past experience, you will still require on the job training as each workplace has different methods.
It's more like a walk-in on the spot hire. Guilds would be more of what you are implying.
HitomeOfBismark wrote:
What do you find to be a reasonable number of attempts before you decide to call it quits without being labeled a princess?
That's up to you and no matter what people say shouldn't dictate that. For me it would be when I shared, explored, and put into action multiple ideas with my group and we still fail. Not always, but sometimes even when I am thinking we may fail. I stick around just to see if my group can surprise me. I get excited!
If you feel deep down you tried your best but it just didn't pan out. Walk away, but do it gracefully.