I would say that 'grinding for xp and raiding for loot' is not all the game is about, and gives a rather poor impression of a great game.
Eq gives you what you put into it. If you want to play casual, spend a few hours a day adventuring, grouping, tradeskilling, questing, hanging around with in-game friends then yes, it's going to take awhile for your character to get to a really high level....but the interaction and content you will have explored, the adventures you will have gone on, the satisfaction of having skilled up in a trade and made in-game weapons and items yourself, the memories you will gain and the fun times making new friends....trust me, taking a while to level up a character is no big deal when you think of that kind of trade-off.
As far as raiding, and xp grinding...to each his or her own. Its not my preferred style of play, and I havent done it much, but I can see how the thirst for glory and the gaining of mighty treasures after having killed a god or gods...that has it's own rewards too. Every person gets something different out of this game. My main, Sundaki, is a lvl 64 cleric of Stromm. He's taken a little over two years to get there...a long time, some may say, but because of my schedule (i work third shift) I dont have a lot of time to play, and I am on opposite most everyone else, so not a lot of grouping. Ive learned to adapt, however. And I have made a lot of friends! And have had some of the most amazing adventures in this game, some of the most enjoyable times too.
Join us on Stromm. Its a friendly server, with a lot of helpfull folk. Look me up, i'll be glad to show you around, and show you that this game can be more than just the ordinary 'xp grind'! WOOT!
Sundaki Wolfmoon, husband of Feralkin Jatha Snowypaws, 64th lvl cleric of Mithanial Marr, Stromm server.