Ahh marvellous, I knew you'd not let me down. Thanks to all for the very helpful info. Some great advice. I think what I'll get her to do first is read this thread. Then perhaps the Class descriptions on Alla so that she can get an idea of what she'd like to play, and then let her play for a while on my account, while I hang around in the background, available for advice and help. Though I hear what you say, let her do it. Lol.
Then if she likes it, when / if we get a second PC, one of us can move to the second account so that we can both start new toons and play together.
Bearing in mind that she will hopefully read this, can you suggest a class for her to start with to try and then perhaps a combo for the two of us based on your experiences.
I've so far played a Beastlord and a Ranger and would like to play a Paladin to her support or a Druid to her Tank. Or perhaps you can suggest better for me?
I think she'd prefer something that is not purely melee like a warrior, but then a complex caster is not going to be for her first time round.
How about me Pala and her Shaman? Are Shaman tough to play? Hold in mind we won't be raiding or getting to a level above 20 for probably 3 months or more. It's not important that we get it right, just that we have fun.
Many thanks,
Lance.
Oh and if you see Mrs Valiant posting, please be nice to her, she's new to this. (What am I saying, I know you by now, of course you will. Cheers.)
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So far I have seen a bride to be referred to as a Fiance and a Husband to be a Fiancee... Just some basic French, the extra e makes it feminine (I'm no longer able to get the comp to spit out the accents, a French person once told me the ascii codes)
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Some 40% of online gamers are women now... You might try stressing the interaction you can have with others and all the various methods of socialization. It's a generalization (hopefully not quite in the area of stereotype) that women tend to be more interested in interaction with others and being able to work toward a common goal than the male passions of blowing stuff up. Having played since May of 99, I increasingly find myself in the position of being the most experienced player in groups, especially on alts, and end up leading while others are feeling indecisive... Perhaps stress things like that, talk about good friends you have made online (Perhaps not hot little wood elf ones at first) and how much you enjoy spending time with your guild. Actually, I read in a certain article I can't recall that a woman said she started playing because she saw him talking to a cute female Wood Elf and thought "It's either that Wood Elf or me". Attempting something like that could backfire pretty hard, though. I successfully got my dad and sister to play (My sister played ravenously for about one summer, got a Ranger to 47, and never played again... She just got absorbed in other things). Just be patient when trying to teach someone, don't assume they know anything, and answer any questions they may have. Don't be tempted to load them down with high powered items and PL them till they can play with you, they'll end up not knowing things about their class, and possibly yelled at in groups. I am someone who enjoys support classes, and I think someone else stressed the importance of feeling needed. When I'm able to take care of everyone, I feel as if I've done my job. Perhaps even show her this list, she might be touched at how many people who don't even know her would like to see her start playing.
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Some 40% of online gamers are women now... You might try stressing the interaction you can have with others and all the various methods of socialization. It's a generalization (hopefully not quite in the area of stereotype) that women tend to be more interested in interaction with others and being able to work toward a common goal than the male passions of blowing stuff up. Having played since May of 99, I increasingly find myself in the position of being the most experienced player in groups, especially on alts, and end up leading while others are feeling indecisive... Perhaps stress things like that, talk about good friends you have made online (Perhaps not hot little wood elf ones at first) and how much you enjoy spending time with your guild. Actually, I read in a certain article I can't recall that a woman said she started playing because she saw him talking to a cute female Wood Elf and thought "It's either that Wood Elf or me". Attempting something like that could backfire pretty hard, though. I successfully got my dad and sister to play (My sister played ravenously for about one summer, got a Ranger to 47, and never played again... She just got absorbed in other things). Just be patient when trying to teach someone, don't assume they know anything, and answer any questions they may have. Don't be tempted to load them down with high powered items and PL them till they can play with you, they'll end up not knowing things about their class, and possibly yelled at in groups. I am someone who enjoys support classes, and I think someone else stressed the importance of feeling needed. When I'm able to take care of everyone, I feel as if I've done my job. Perhaps even show her this list, she might be touched at how many people who don't even know her would like to see her start playing.
Just let her pick her class. Even if she wants a "complex caster", don't try to discourage that. She'll be able to figure out whatever class she's interested in. When she meets someone of any given class in the game, she'll have a better understanding of what they can do if she's been able to play one herself.
It might take a few tries before she finds a class that she really enjoys playing. All of the class descriptions sound really cool when you read them, but they each have their own distinct feel and not all of them will appeal to everyone.
Once she picks something, you might want to ask her what class she thinks you should be. This type of discussion about classes and how they can work together could make learning their roles a little easier.
Just try not to condiscend or discard her opinions because she's new to the game. A fresh perspective can easily grant new insight to even the most experienced individual. You'll be there to guide her along in the beginning, but you may find yourself learning a great deal from her as well.
Have fun! :)
It might take a few tries before she finds a class that she really enjoys playing. All of the class descriptions sound really cool when you read them, but they each have their own distinct feel and not all of them will appeal to everyone.
Once she picks something, you might want to ask her what class she thinks you should be. This type of discussion about classes and how they can work together could make learning their roles a little easier.
Just try not to condiscend or discard her opinions because she's new to the game. A fresh perspective can easily grant new insight to even the most experienced individual. You'll be there to guide her along in the beginning, but you may find yourself learning a great deal from her as well.
Have fun! :)
Also - if she is going to start playing soon then start her on test server with the new tutorial there. Show her how to use /feedback and /bug, and let her know her opinions matter to the game; especially as someone who is completely new to the game. She can get several characters to level 5 in that tutorial, earn gear, learn the game, and then decide which one fits best.
/testbuff lets her take that character out as a level 25 char for her to test. Gives her an idea of how the class plays out later on, although with the tutorial in there I think the start of the game is much friendlier in general.
Once the tutorial goes live, then any server will do.
/testbuff lets her take that character out as a level 25 char for her to test. Gives her an idea of how the class plays out later on, although with the tutorial in there I think the start of the game is much friendlier in general.
Once the tutorial goes live, then any server will do.
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Lordy, I didn't realize so many EQ players were married/getting there, I'm 13!
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OK , Just a reminder. You read the posts . You seen the info, But you did not obsorb it. Instead of getting any ideas in your head ahead of time. Like what was stated, and I beleave this to be the one she would like the most. Just go with the flow, let her get her feet wet. See what she likes, Maybe she wants to be the druid, maybe she wants to be the froggy wizard, maybe she wants to be the Barb war, or even ....... The Gnomish MONK ( VANISH. wtf comics joke you'd have to read it to get it. ) but point is let her find the style that best fits her and when she is ready to have it, Then you pounce on finding the perfect match. I'd be more then happy to help you out. There is always more then one way to skin the cat, so to speak.
And might I add I loved reading this post. The amount of time that in one way or another as bazaar as it may seem at times that familys are once again spending time together.
My ex used to play a wide range of games with me. and I found that letting her find her own way ( when it came to gaming) to always be the best end result.
Oh I also agree with perhaps she may find no interest at all but, even that I would find hard to beleave there is just to much in the game to not find a little nitch. What drew me was someone once said it's "like a chat room with swords and a blacksmith" ... I dont think they will ever be told just how right they are.
And might I add I loved reading this post. The amount of time that in one way or another as bazaar as it may seem at times that familys are once again spending time together.
My ex used to play a wide range of games with me. and I found that letting her find her own way ( when it came to gaming) to always be the best end result.
Oh I also agree with perhaps she may find no interest at all but, even that I would find hard to beleave there is just to much in the game to not find a little nitch. What drew me was someone once said it's "like a chat room with swords and a blacksmith" ... I dont think they will ever be told just how right they are.
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