Everquest marriages are one of those things that used to be sort of common (or at least not unheard of) but have largely gone the way of old Cazic-Thule as roleplayers become an increasing minority in the game.
To be clear, the effects in game of "marriage" are nil. It is solely a roleplaying device and is completely in your own minds. While you can have (or could have, I don't know if they still do) a GM perform the ceremony, it's not as if your account gets flagged or anything. So long as you say you're married, you're married. If you say you're not, you're not.
What you need to get married is up to you then. You could get nothing, just say you're married and that's that. Obviously most people who are inclined to roleplay being married though are going to put more into it than that. So get yourself some cake and booze from your local baker and brewer. Dye your armor some lovely wedding appropriate color. If you aren't a caster but are a race that can wear robes (high elf, dark elf, human, Erudite, froglok, Iksar, gnome) then you can get a Shade Silk robe which is All/All and dye it white (if you're a female, naturally). Don't bother if your race doesn't support robe graphics; it'll just show as a white shirt.
Grab your guild leader, friend who plays a cleric/shaman/druid, or whatever and have him or her conduct the ceremony. Hold it somewhere scenic, but also somewhere safe to all races. The waterfall outside Thurgardin may be a good spot, but the Temple of Marr in N. Freeport is going to exclude any troll, dark elf, shadowknight, etc friends you may have. It used to be where you could petition for a GM to conduct the ceremony, but I'm not sure if they still do. Really the only special thing about the GM ceremony was the free No Rent cake, some scripted vows and the fact that s/he could change your surnames to match on the spot if you so desired. You can ask, but I'd think having a friend do it would be more meaningful.
Prepare to have people say weddings are gay or retarded or whatever. While I admit it's not my cup of tea, I don't see any reason to dump on someone else who may enjoy it. There's a lot bigger problems on Norrath to worry about than some people who want to meet up in North Ro and exchange wedding vows.
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Belkira wrote:
Wow. Regular ol' Joph fan club in here.